One door closes and another one opens
Tonight is my last night in the apartment that has launched me into my adult life.
I am borrowing the internet from my upstairs neighbour and friend and being sad and nostalgic.
I started my career here, I fell in love and got my heart and my ankle broken here, I bought furniture and cooked meals, I had parties and I learned so much. It is hard to say how I feel.
I’m sitting here watching my favourite movie (Harvey) and hoping that my Pooka comes along.
2017 had brought with it some amazing things and this is the last big one (I hope) for the year. I’m excited, scared, sad and a little worried. As moving goes.
I have only freaked out one time and I am grateful for friends and family for the help I am getting with and without asking. I’m happy and I just want to put up the christmas tree and watch the doctor.
And now..Goodnight.
2016
This may be a few weeks earlier that I would usually post something like this but I have been feeling it so in the spirit of feeling what I feel when I feel it here we are.
2016 has been a shit year. It has sucked. 2015 ended with Beth dying and turmoil and crazyness and this year launched with uneasy-ness, a car accident and generally a very rocky start. It had usual ups and downs and in the middle I was done. Crushed, hurt and broken in mental, physical and emotional ways. This year my now ex crashed by car and totaled it, the man I thought I would spend my life with left me and I broke my ankle. I proceeded to spend 4ish months in a haze of mild depression, tears, eating badly, sleeping badly and generally hating everything. And that was just my personal life. My job sucked, major celerities and icons died and a number of other unpleasant things have happened.
I feel as if for the first time in a long long long long time I am finally coming out of this. I am hoping that this is a corner I have been waiting to turn. I am hoping all my work is paying off. I am hoping it works out. I know it will but I spent last year trying to catch a break and this year I was the bug on the windshield almost every single day. I’m gonna be the car next time.
On the upside I have formed friendships I couldn’t have imagined, made friends I cant live without and remembered all the good things I have. It still hurts sometimes, it still sucks and I miss my car, my partner and my old life some days but then I remember that I don’t have to drink at night so that I can sleep, I don’t feel pressured to take care of anyone but me, I don’t have a constant sense of overwhelming panic that just won’t go away. I am me again for the first time in over a year. I really missed me. I’m pretty good. So here’s to an upswing because fuck me its been a hell of a year and I am ready for something new.
This Life
This freaking life.
I have had the most insane last month. I looked at the calendar the other day and in the last 30 days more things, significant, life changing insane things, have happened than have happened to me in a really long time.
Right now I feel a lot of things. I feel hurt, strong, like I want to punch someone, like I’m carpe-ing the fuck out of all the diems, like I’m a little bit more raw than I really want to be right now but that this is what I get and so I better keep moving.
The only way out is up. You deserve more. Life is good. Take it one day at a time. Care less, do more. Man up. Feel what you need to feel. and a huge number of other inspirational and feel good things have been thrown at me, I’ve been swallowing them and trying to breathe.
I hope that whatever comes next is as amazing as I think it is. I have great faith my life will work out. But fuck right now it just feels a bit…it feels a bit broken. I cannot recall the last time so many changes have come at once. I’m never ready. I’m not going to start now. But I just want things to work. The intent is a powerful one. You can only want something so hard. One day it will come. I just hope that it is sooner rather than later.
It’s been nearly a week since I chose not to go. Apart from the eerie silence from the recruiter everything is coming up Millhouse.
I cannot recall a time in my life when it made so little sense. Except around the time I finished my first degree…maybe there is something to be said about me finishing educational milestones?
But I have decided many things. First, while I love you all I’ve got to stop caring what everyone else is thinking about what on earth I am doing. Because NOBODY CARES. B, that I have no idea what I am doing and whenever I just let the universe take the wheel it somehow works for me. So I’m not going to start trying to figure out the grand plan now. 3, I am going back to my old plan – Care less and Do more. Why? Because it fucking works that’s why.
I get to hold all the cards in my life and it is about damn time I stop giving it all away to whoever rolls up next.
So it’s gonna be a whirlwind. But I’m going to take Evan’s advice and intend some things.
You can’t make nothing out of nothing.
DFTBA
The week that changed everything
This time one week ago I was a a friends house drowning my so called sorrows in glass after glass of gin and soda.
This week has been full of ups and downs and a lot of self reflection and really deciding on what I really want. WHAT I WANT. That was a bit of a novel concept. I hadn’t spent much time thinking about what it actually was that I wanted. I had been spending so much time being worried about how other people would handle what I chose. How other people would react when I told them something or other. How they would feel. I felt that I had built up so much of my self worth along with a decision that in actual reality was totally in consequential. I felt that if I didn’t do this I would be letting them down. But do you want to know what I came to realize this week? That it didn’t matter what they thought. If I was really doing this for myself I would feel good about it and I didn’t. I have spent weeks feeling sick about a decision that I thought I HAD to make. There is a an excellent quote that I see online often that says “What you allow is what will continue.” That is exactly what was happening. I’ve been all over the place for the last week and while that may not seem like a lot time it has been more than enough to bring real clarity to an otherwise foggy decision and has put my happiness at the forefront for the first time in an awfully long time.
So I’m not going to move to the UK. I have chosen for many many many varied and coloured reasons that staying here is the right choice for me. It may rub some people the wrong way. It may sound flakey. It may seem insane. But the bottom line is that I am so much happier with this choice than I ever was with the choice to go.
So I hope you all can understand and if you can’t that’s ok because I’m the one who’s going to live with my choices and I’m as happy as I’ve ever been.
It has been an astonishingly long time since I posted anything on here despite the fact that I had started and simply not finished several posts about life and what not.
I have decided that in an effort to keep myself sane, smart and generally less unhappy about everything I am going to start reading more. Like reading as many books as possible. I spend far far too much time watching tv and youtube and the like.
So it begins today with me vowing to finish Allegiant by the end of the month. Totally doable. I have a huge list of books I’ve been wanting to read or have started and left unfinished so I will pull from there and wherever strikes my fancy over the coming months.
Keep an eye out for more posts and in general more enjoyment because hell, I only get to do this once.
I do not want t…
I do not want to live in a world that focuses only on SUCK and never on AWESOME” – John Green
I found this quote a couple of days ago and it resonates with me like nothing else!
The last 5 months have been hard. I’m having a hard time. I don’t like growing up much. But alas it is something we need to do. So with that in mind and the fact that I need to kill my year. I want the adventure and the joy that only truly accepting that you make those things happen can bring. With that this Nerdfighter is going to fight to decrease world suck, to teach with passion and joy, to smile at every single moment, to close the floodgates and to hit the road. I have already decided where this year is going to go and I know that it will include adventures and laughter and a whole lot of learning.
I refuse to focus only on suck this year. I will always remember the awesome.
DFTBA
Ok so its the new year.
It is another new year. The days are going to pass quickly and before I know it I’ll be writing this yearly post again.
I have had some incredible trials and triumphs this year. I have been the better person, I’ve been the worse person. I’ve slacked, I’ve put my nose the grindstone. I have laughed and cried and learned so much, but somewhere in there I got lost.
Everything started to feel wrong. It was all off. There was no balance and I didn’t know how to make it come back. I felt that myself, all the things that make me who I am and remind me how much I’m the best there is at doing what I do, slipped through the cracks and then little by little my self confidence, work ethic, laughter, wittiness, courageousness and life force fizzled. Like it was being chipped away at by a small but determined sense of doubt. Everyday felt hopelessly, endlessly long. Every night I would go home to start what I had begun to refer to as “the third shift” where I would work myself to death in the small hours of the morning watching my alarm clock draw ever nearer. I felt so beaten, so wrecked and so broken. I do not like feeling that way. The worst part? I didn’t even realize how much of myself I had let get stolen from me until I woke up one day and felt the world letting me breath.
What does all of that darkness have to do with new years and resolutions and the inherent positivity that will inhabit most people for about the next two weeks? Nothing.
But it does mean something to me. I believe strongly in a precious few things. 1) Have no regrets – live the life you imagine, 2) Failure is not an option, 3) Care less, do more.
My goals for the coming year are simple. They are usually the same year after year (exercise more, get skinny, read more books, travel, pay bills, etc) but this year they are different. This year they are only 3.
- Have no regrets – live the life you imagined
- Failure is not an option.
- Care less, do more.
The end goal? Be a better version of me. To change in this ever changing world. There will be a million things that make these big goals come true. There will be a thousand smaller goals, there will be hundreds of roadblocks but at the end of the road (because I have decided it is so) there will be success. The theme? Chase your dreams and the rest will come along.
Cheers to the new year and all it has to offer.
fionnsmyth 